1dietcokeinacan:

Daughters really do share deep rooted emotional trauma with/inherit deep rooted emotional trauma from their mothers and I know it’s true bc whenever I try to approach a sensitive topic with my mom, no matter how calm and civil and patient I intend to be no matter how much I’ve practiced what I want to say no matter how OK I was even a moment before, I always involuntarily burst into desperate, angry hysterics the moment I open my mouth. As though it’s coming from a place buried so far within me I cannot even register its existence until it has overtaken me. And I know I’m not alone on this either. There is so much we internalize from our mothers that we never learn to contend with. That we never even learn to recognize

aphotovici:

okcupidescapades:

okcupidescapades:

i feel like the most important piece of wisdom i can impart on teenagers is that no one–no one–knows what the fuck they’re doing

my brother is 26 years old, makes $200k a year, and just bought a house with his fiance. he’s the success story you hear about but never actually meet in person, but it all happened by accident. he wanted to go to college for clarinet performance, but he got rejected from all the top schools. so he decided to major in physics instead, and then went on to get a doctorate to put off being an adult for a few more years. but then he ended up dropping out halfway through the program and accepting a job with google as a software engineer. so to reiterate: my brother majored in something he was not interested in, and then he got a job that had nothing to do with his degree. 

he isn’t successful because he had some master plan he followed, he just stumbled around blindly until something worked out. and that’s what we’re all doing–i majored in political science and now i do customer service for a company that makes industrial-sized gas detection monitors. the marketing director at my company has a degree in biology, and my mom has an MBA and works at a middle school.  no one knows what they’re doing, we’re all just trying different things until something works out.

so if you don’t have a plan, that’s fine. most of us don’t. and even those of us who do, don’t usually end up doing the thing they thought they would. it’s okay to relax and let life carry you wherever it’s gonna carry you. because even though a lot of us don’t end up doing the thing we wanted, most of us end up happy anyway.

I’ve been thinking about this post since I made it a few hours ago, and I realized that I literally don’t know anyone who’s doing what they thought they’d be doing at this point in their life.
I know a girl that has a degree in neuroscience and works in a restaurant (and makes quite a bit more money than I do, might I add), and a guy who wanted to be a parole officer but is now a security guard. I know people who wanted to be lawyers but ended up not having the grades for law school. I have a friend who’s 24 and just finished her bachelor’s, and two friends who decided to go to grad school because the idea of joining the adult world terrified them.

When I was seventeen, I was 100% sure that I was going to get a job as a bureaucrat and save the world. When I was a 21-year-old recent college grad, I found out that it’s impossible to get a government job unless you know someone. So I gave up and found something else. I know my teenage self would be disappointed if she could see where I’m at, but you know what? I don’t care. Because teenage me was an idiot. She didn’t know anything about the world or how it worked, and she couldn’t have possibly predicted the curveballs that life would throw at her. And because I don’t know a single person who’s doing the thing they wanted to do when they were teenagers.

I know a thousand people who aren’t where they thought they’d be, and zero people who are following the path they set out for themselves. All of us are confused and all of us are scared, and it’s okay if you are too.

Honestly thank u, i needed to hear this again

mostlyhydratrash:

gentrychild:

keilattes:

he had to freshen up for his man (x)

#its the truth he actually went and prettied himself up for steve i’m laughing#bucky: what??? he is????? when?!!????!!#t’challa: probably like in an hour why#bucky: [books it over to shuri’s] i need all the coconut shea butter you have#shuri’s just: ………….. golden america boy is back isn’t he

I don’t even go here anymore, but this is fucking true

jamesnbarnes:

can we talk abt how bucky felt something was wrong, like actually really wrong and instinctively stepped towards steve and called out for him 

how do u think steve felt watching bucky go down just inches away from him knowing he couldn’t save him, just like the first time

cabigbang:

WEEK 4 ROUND-UP: OCT 15-OCT 21

Draw Me a Love Story by @what-isright (author), @ero-haru (artist), @childofwintre (artist) // BuckySteve. 24k words. Rated T.

The Restoration Artist by @superheroresin (author), @cryo-bucky (artist), @samthebirdbae (artist) // BuckySteve. 110k words. Rated E.

Stalker by @noncorporealform (author), @daphneblithe (artist), @childofwintre (artist) // NatashaWanda. 28k words. Rated E.

The Choice by @articcat621 (author), @mystrana (artist) // HermoineSteve. 15k words. Rated E.

Heart on the Trigger by djchika (author), @lisamott9 (artist) // BuckySteve, BuckyandNatasha, BuckyandTony, BuckyandWanda, BuckyandClint, BuckyandDumDum. 39k words. Rated M.

So far I’ve come (to get to you)
by @yetanotherobsessivereader (author), @layersofsilences (artist) // BuckySteve. 37k words. Rated T.

Where I Belong by @tolkhien (author), @nejineeee (artist) // BuckySteve. 21k words. Rated G

When They Had Nothing by

@until-theend-oftheline (author), @ischa-posts (artist) // BuckySteve. 34k words. Rated M.

Next Chapter by

@stucky4breakfast

(author), @msaether (artist) // BuckySteve. 15k words. Rated E.

Endure the Darkness by @heaven-hell-and-humanity (author), @fannishlove (artist), @whatthefoucault (artist) // BuckySteve. 21k words. Rated T.

In the Space Between Breaths by

@tetrodotoxinb (author), 

@inflomora-art (artist) // Gen. 56k words. Rated E.

Treasure Every Instant Until the End of the Line by @geekygirl24 (author), @starmaki (artist) // BuckySteve. 18k words. Rated M.

A Soft Place to Land by @pineau-noir (author), @artgroves (artist) // BuckySteve, PeterWade, ClintNatasha, AmericaKate. 42k words. Rated E.

Roll Out the Red Carpet by @quarra (author), @drjezdzanyart (artist), @talkplaylove (artist) // BuckySteve, PepperTony, JaneThor. 29k words. Rated E.

NEO: La Montaña by
@krycek-asks (author),
@thelittleblackfox (artist), 

@kaiwrites

(artist)

// BuckySteve. 41k words. Rated M.

The Steve Rogers Foundation by @ravenclawwitch18 (author), @huntress79 (artist) // BuckySteve, SteveTJ, BuckySteveTJ. 25k words. Rated M.

Lessons in Normality by @relenafanel (author), @ellebeesknees (artist) // BuckySteve. 38k words. Rated E.

The Politics of Dancing by @chilledbucks (author), @velociraptorerin (artist), @airafleeza (artist) // BuckySteve. 21k words. Rated E.

Not With a Whimper, But a Bang by @emptydistractions12 (author),

seleneheart (artist) // BuckySteve. 46k words. Rated E.

The Art of Crime by samwise_baggins (author), @steve-bucky-stucky (author), @lisamott9 (artist) // BuckySteve, LokiTJ, ClintNatasha, BuckyBrock. 84k words. Rated E.

Liberate Tutemet Ex Inferis (Save yourself from hell) by @terrenis (author), @kaiwrites (artist) // BuckySamSteve, SharonWanda, PepperTony, ClintandNatasha, FurySharonWanda. 56k words. Rated E.

In This Last of Meeting Places by @drowningbydegrees-fanworks (author), @angstassart (artist), @squeakydevil (artist) // BuckySteve. 37k words. Rated E.

Gone Fishin’ by @mariknickerbocker (author), @huntress79 (artist) // ClintNatasha, BuckySteve, RileySam, BobbiClint, NatashaSam. 70k words. Rated M.

This Much I Know Is True by @walkingstardust (author), @angstassart (artist), @valecitadraws (artist) // BuckySteve, ClintNatasha, RileySam. 63k words. Rated M.